Is lack holding you back?

By Alexis Rae Baker

Dear Lexis,

What do you think is the main thing that holds people back?


Curious about Lacey

Dear Curious,

The first thing that holds people back is the belief in lack. Lack is an extremely common idea in our world, and sometimes rightly so. We only live for a certain number of years, we only have a limited number of hours in a day, and we only have access to certain resources at any given time.

There is no doubt that “lack” is a real thing. However, this is usually not a hugely important factor when it comes to succeeding in any given avenue. Tony Robbins says, and I agree, it’s not a lack of resources that makes you fail. It’s a lack of resourcefulness.

Yes, creating a work of art is easier when you have canvases and a plethora of pens, paints and tools, but that doesn’t preclude true dedication (as evidenced by the large number of artists who create using recycled materials, salvaged trash, and foliage picked up from the ground.

We tend to use lack as an excuse. “There’s too much competition and too few customers”, “I don’t have enough money to pay for this”, “I’m not attractive enough to attract a potential partner.” On the surface, all of these claims could be true, but the fault lies in the fact that they are all one-dimensional objections.

If everyone were to attract customers the same way, maybe the first statement would turn you off, but you are unique and can come up with new presentations that appeal to the people you most want to work with.

Yes, you may not have enough money to buy something, but could you find a solution that does not require a financial exchange? Or even a way to bring in more money to compensate? Considering the plethora of revenue-generating ideas, I can pretty much guarantee there is a solution.

Sure, you might not have a face that makes anyone’s jaw drop, but are you really going to tell me there’s absolutely nothing attractive about you? No kindness, intelligence or humility that you could put forward? Yes, dating can be harder, but isn’t everyone looking for a deeper connection anyway? Just approach dating from a different angle.

Lack stands on all paths. It gives us a reason not to try, and we all take advantage of that fact at one time or another. I know that for me, as I worked to build a digital ad agency, I used lack as a reason for not putting in the effort. “There are so many other ad agencies out there. Why would anyone want to work with me? But the truth is, I have something to offer, and if I want to improve my life, I have to be willing to risk my comfort to get ahead. You can do the same.

Deep down, I think we all know that there are really no limits to what we can accomplish. What limits us is our own conviction and willingness to do what is necessary to achieve our ends. We feel we lack talent, knowledge and following, but when we push forward anyway, we discover a courage we didn’t know we had.


Lexis is Alexis Rae Baker. She writes from her home in Olympia. Have a question about life, relationships, spirit? Visit him at or write to Lexis at mailto:[email protected]

Aubrey L. Morgan